HINDU MARRIAGES

The Dharmasastras, including the Manusmrti, Mention Eight forms of Marriages. The Eight Types are: Brahma, Daiva, Arsa, Prajapatya, Asura, Gandharva, Raksasa and Paisaca.

Brahma

After the student bachelor has completed his Gurukulavasa, his parents approach the parents of a girl belonging to a Good Family and ask them to give away their daughter in marriage to their son–to make a gift of their daughter (kanyadana) to him. A marriage arranged like this is Brahma. In it, this girl’s family does not give any dowry or jewelry to the boy’s family. There is no “commercial transaction” and the goal of a Brahma marriage is the dharmic advancement of two families. Of the eight forms of marriage, the dharmasastras regard this as the highest.

Daiva

Marrying a girl to a Rtvik (priest) during a sacrifice is called “Daiva”. The parents, in this type, after waiting in vain for a young man to turn up and ask for their daughter’s hand, go looking for a groom for her in a place where a sacrifice is being conducted. This type of marriage is considered inferior to Brahma. In the sastras, womanhood is elevated in that it is the groom’s family that has to seek a bride for their son.

Arsa

The third form, “Arsa” suggests that it is concerned with the rsis, sages. It seems the marriage of Sukanya to Cyavana Maharsi was of this type. But from the Dharmasastras, we learn that in arsa the bride is given in exchange for two cows received from the groom. If the term is taken to mean “giving away a girl in marriage to a rsi”, we must take it that the girl is married off to an old sage because the parents could not celebrate her marriage according to the Brahma rite at the right time. The fact that cows are taken in exchange for the bride shows that the groom does not possess any remarkable qualities. According to the sastras, in marriages of the noble kind, there is no place for money or anything smacking of a business transaction.

Prajapatya

In Prajapatya there is no trading and Kanyadana is a part of it as in the Brahma ceremony. But from the name prajapatya it must be inferred that the bride’s menarche is imminent and that a child must be begotten soon after the marriage. For this reason, the bride’s father goes in search of a groom, unlike in the Brahma type. The Brahma type is a better type of marriage than prajapatya since, in it, the groom’s people go seeking a bride who is to be the Grahalaksmi of their household.

Asura

In the asura type, the groom is in no way a match for the girl, but her father or her relatives receive a good deal of money from the man who forces them to marry her to him. In arsa in which cows are given in exchange for the bride, there is no compulsion. Nor is the groom wealthy or powerful like his counterpart in the asura type. Many rich men must have taken a second wife according to the asura type of marriage.

Gandharva

The next is Gandharva. The very mention of it calls to mind Sakuntala and Dusyanta. The Gandharva type is the “love marriage” that has such enthusiastic support these days.

Raksasa

In the Raksasa form, the groom battles with the girl’s family overcome them, and carrying her away. It was in this manner that Krsna Paramatman married Rukmini.

Paisaca

The eighth and last is Paisaca. In asura even though the girl’s willingness to marry the man is of no consequence, at least her people are given money. In Raksasa, though violence is done to the girl’s family, the marriage itself is not against her wish. Rukmini loved Krsna, did she not? In Paisaca the girl’s wish does not count, nor is any money or material given to her parents. She is seized against her wish and her family Antagonised.

SYSTEM OF MARRIAGES

We have the Brahma type at one end and the Paisaca at the other. There cannot be the same system or the same arrangement for everybody. Our sastras have taken into account the differences in temperament and attitude among various sections of people and it is in keeping with the same that they have assigned them different rites, vocations, etc. All our present trouble arises from the failure on the part of men, who Advocate the same system for all, to recognize this fact.

There are tribals living in the forests who look fierce and have a harsh way of life. But at heart they may be more cultured than townspeople, not to speak of the fact that they are useful to society in many ways. They have frequent family feuds. In consideration of this Raksasa and Paisava marriages may have to be permitted in their case. After the marriage, they are likely to forget their quarrels and live in peace with each other. Ksatriyas who are physically strong and are used to material pleasure is allowed the Gandharva form of marriage and their girls have even the right to choose their husbands as in the svayamvara ceremony.

It is for these reasons that the dharmasastras, which are based on the Vedas and which constitute Hindu law, permit eight forms of marriage. In all these eight, the bride and groom have the right to be united in wedlock with the chanting of mantras. But Brahma is the highest of the eight forms. In it, the bride must not have attained puberty. “Pradanam prak rtoh”: — this statement is in the dharmasastras themselves. A girl’s marriage, which has some significance for her that the upanayana has for a boy, must be performed when she is seven years old (or eight years from conception)

Unfortunately, in the case of some girls, a groom does not turn up in time for a Brahma marriage to be performed. Meanwhile, they grow old and their marriage is conducted in the arsa, daiva, or prajapatya way. Only these types are permitted for Brahmins. But for the rest, other types are also allowed. They may marry a girl who has come of age either in the Gandharva way or in a svayamvara.

The marriage mantras are intended for all eight forms. It means that they are employed even in the marriage rite of girls who have attained puberty. The two mantras quoted above are recited in all eight types of marriage. They are addressed by the groom to the bride who comes to him after she has attained puberty and after she has been under the guardianship successively of Soma, Gandharva, and Agni. The mantras are chanted not only in Brahma marriages but also in all other forms. The same is addressed by the groom to his child bride also. Though his marriage is being solemnized to the child bride now, he will start living with her only after she comes of age, after she becomes a young woman. He will bring her home to live with him only after she has come successively under Soma, Gandharva, and Agni. So he chants the mantras in advance.

CURRENT STATUS

Nowadays we sometimes perform a number of samskaras together long after they are due according to the sastras. For example, we perform the jatakarma of a son as well as his Namakarana and Caula during his upanayana when he is 20 or 22 years old and not long before his marriage. Similarly, instead of such postponement of the rites, in the Brahma marriage, the mantras mentioned above are chanted in advance.

When the Brahmacarin performs the Samidadhana he prays before Agni to grant him, Good children. How absurd would it be for our reformers to argue, on the basis of this prayer, that a young boy must have children when he is yet a celibate student and that he may become a householder only later? The point to note is that the boy prays in advance for good children. The Vedic mantras cited by reformers must be seen in the same light.

Now things have changed. There is no respect any longer for old customs and traditions. When the Sarda Act came into force in British India, some Sanskrit scholars returned the “Mahamahopadhyaya” title conferred on them by the government. Among them were Pancanana Tarkaratna Bhattacarya of Bengal and Laksmana Sastri Dravid. The latter was settled in Kasi and had the “Dravid” tagged on to his name to make it known that he belonged to the land of the Tamils. How many people today are inspired to rise in protest against the changes introduced by our government in our sastric observances.

Our children must be taught the substance and meaning of the sastras in a comprehensive manner. To speak to them about one aspect here and another there will lead to a haphazard and confusing view. The half-baked research carried on in the Vedas has given rise to the opinion that the scriptures favor love marriage. The canonical texts must be seen in their entirety. When a subject is examined, its underlying meaning and purpose must be grasped. Also, they must be seen in the light of other relevant passages occurring elsewhere. A conclusion must be arrived at only after a thorough inquiry into all points.

The Brahma marriage is for all castes. Other forms of marriage are also permitted for non-Brahmins, also post-puberty marriage. If the idea is to give importance to carnal pleasure these other forms may be permitted. But Brahma is the best if the purpose of the marriage samskara is the advancement of the Self

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